By: Eduardo Barragan
For many of us masturbation is a taboo topic, especially with the mention of sex toys. Since their creation, sex toys were purchased shamefully at sex shops or phone ordered from late-night commercials.
Recently, vibrators have shown an increase in popularity. They are now sold by stores like CVS and Walmart. This popularity boost has MTV broadcasting vibrator advertisements during Teen Mom commercial breaks. We see vibrator talk in popular TV shows like “How I Met Your Mother” and even in movies like “Easy A.”
Women are now owning their sexuality and talking about their sex toys.
But when it comes to men owning sex toys, it is deemed shameful. A level of acceptance and in some cases pride, comes with a woman owning a vibrator but the idea of a man owning a fake vagina is seen sad and unnatural. The moment men show interest in products like “fleshlights” or “pocket-pussies” they are instantly seen as creepy.
Fake rubber vaginas have a record of causing fights between couples and can often lead to a breakup. Usually, a woman who finds a fake vagina in her boyfriend’s closet has her insecurities rattled.
She might think, Why would he have such a toy and keep it in his closet? Aren’t I enough for him? Is this a form of cheating?
Three years ago, I went to a sex shop with my girlfriend at the time to buy her a vibrator. As we walked out, I joked about buying a fleshlight. Her reaction was less than understanding. She yelled, “What is wrong with you? That’s disgusting!”
But it’s just a sex toy.
It doesn’t change the state of a relationship. It is just something that a man uses to sexually gratify himself. It’s no different than women having a dildo except a guy won’t tell his buddies how great his fake vagina is.
Some people argue that vibrators have more attractive designs and they serve more functional purposes than fake vaginas. This is ridiculous, both serve the same exact purpose — to get the user to achieve an orgasm.
Even single men get dirty looks for talking about or owning a toy. But masturbation is a natural activity for both sexes. There shouldn’t be shame, guilt and fear overcoming men who think about purchasing a fake vagina. Whether you are in a relationship or single, masturbation happens.
If there is no shame for women to want a sex toy, then there shouldn’t be for men.